Ok, on to more serious thoughts. Let's see CD 5 here. Nothing exciting to report on that front. Tonight, I have been going through Donor choices. You know, deciding what is my criteria and ranking, etc. If I was married or in a serious relationship it would be easier as I would look for donors that identified with my other half the most. In my situation, it is very different. However, Interestingly enough I noticed that I find myself leaning towards the same qualities & appearance that my Fiance that passed away possessed. Is that crazy? It isn't as if this would be his child...I asked myself WHY I am doing this comparison? Anyway, in my situation Donor selection was initially more difficult to begin with. I am Bi-Racial - Caucasian Mother & Black Mother = Candace. Anyhoo, only one Truly Reputable Bank has a selection of Donors that are Bi-Racial with my 2 race classifications. My verdict on that...WHO CARES. I don't pick my significant others by race so why would I choose a Donor based initially, directly on it. In fact, my Fiance not that it matters was Caucasian, Brown Hair and Vivid Blue Eyes, 6'4 into athletics, chicken wings (Yuck!) and Golf. He was my Opposite in many regards on Paper and yet we were Soul Mates & we connected on an amazing Level. Saying this, I came to the decision I will use WHATEVER hits me about a Donor and THAT will be my guide. If I feel connected in some strange way by picking Donors that fit my Fiance in some fashion, then I will go with it. If I decide that with my strong LOVE of Asian cultures to choose an Asian Donor then more power to me. My main focus will be Genetic Family Health History with NO smoking or abusive drinking and a few other specific qualities that are personally important to me. I also decided because over the years I have made a connection with one Bank over a few others I am going to go ahead with my plan stay with that Bank for 5 -6 times MAX(hopefully it won't take that long). If nothing comes of that, I will go to the other Bank that I am VERY familiar with from where I moved from. If I end up going to that Bank I will use a Physician to handle my cycles.
Whew....now that I have rambled a plenty I am going to relax and enjoy a Good Book and a WONDERFUL piece of Peanut Butter Pie. Tomorrow, is my rotation Teaching Pregnant Homebound Teens...those days are always exhausting...rewarding..YES...but still exhausting.
HUGS my Cyber Pals!
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It's funny, I think, what strikes us as comfortable or positive about the donors we choose or what traits we focus on. I can completely understand where donors that match up in some ways to a person you loved dearly would rise to the top. I looked for dark curly/wavy hair because of a dream I had several years ago... I know! We'll love our babies no matter what, but it's great we have the option of choosing traits we love.
By the way, you can get in touch with me any time you like, Miss Candace. Email: tuzigoot2001@go.com
Have a great one my vegetarian co-conspirator!
Hey Candace,
I think it's interesting how you are picking your donor. In my opinion, it would be more fun to be able to pick a donor NOT based on what they look like, or their race, but the qualities that you connect with. It will be interesting to see which donor you select! Good luck to you in the process, I always found it fun to search for the perfect donor.
You know what? I think your Mom is very lucky to have a daughter like you! Have a great day!!
Hugs,
Deena
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